Answers to parents’ frequently asked questions
When a young man is discerning a vocational call to the priesthood, often it raises many questions and concerns for the parents and family. In an effort to allay any fears or concerns and provide experienced insights, the Vocation Office sent a questionnaire to parents of Detroit seminarians and to parents of newly ordained priests. The questions asked and some of the responses have been posted to address many of these questions and concerns that any parent may face when a son considers entering the seminary. Please feel free to contact the Office of Priestly Vocations if you have any questions.
Parents are “by word and example…the first heralds of the faith with regard to their children. They should encourage them in the vocation to which is proper to each child, fostering with special care any religious vocations.”
– Lumen Gentium 11
- If one’s son is considering the priesthood, it’s wonderful to note that there is no prototype in terms of age, personality, occupation (former) or circumstances; rather that “openness to grace”, so rejoice and encourage him to seek discernment in an atmosphere where he will be formed, amongst others seeking the same answer.
- Parents should become informed as to how and where a possible candidate could begin the process of actual investigation of a vocation.
- I think parents would like to know how to approach the situation, where to go for information and the order/seminary their son is considering entering. I believe parents would benefit from talking to other parents of men considering the priesthood or to parents of men who are already ordained.
- It is a tremendous way of life! He will not desert you but visit often. His parish becomes his extended family.
- Pray for them and take one day at a time. Realize the importance of spiritual direction and put “no” pressure on them. Let God draw them in through prayer.
- They must be tremendously supportive and always be there for him. Always encouraging (him) to follow God’s call.